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Letter From Tia: Mid-year Check In

Dear Anser fam,

We’ve officially arrived at June, which means we’re already halfway through 2021. I don’t know about you, but I feel like I just made all my New Years Resolutions and my annual vision board. It’s a great moment to check in and ask myself:

What were some of the goals I set for myself this year?

Where have I stayed on course and where have things surprised me, or changed? 

What else can I do to honor myself and how I want to show up this year?

Early in January, I spoke with one of my closest friends, Adrienne Bosh, for this blog. We talked about everything we had learned from 2020 and what we were looking forward to in 2021. And when we covered our New Year's Resolutions, A and I talked about how we think about resolutions as intentions and the importance of not judging yourself so harshly.

So I want to remind you, as we head into what will hopefully be a beautiful summer: have grace with yourself. Don’t judge yourself or beat yourself down when you stumble or if things haven’t gone according to “the plan” that you arbitrarily decided six months ago. I said it then and I’ll say it again: you will find success when you open yourself to grace and forgiveness. 

You know how the body remembers things? This time last year, everything changed. George Floyd and Breonna Taylor’s deaths ignited protests and real, transformative conversation that made our whole society reevaluate power and the Black experience in a way that has affected every facet of life. 

On the one year anniversary of last June’s reckoning, you may find yourself more anxious, depressed, or like you’re having trouble focusing. Social media might be a source of stress versus an escape as people share stories, photos, or have interactions in comments that might feel triggering. It’s okay to unplug.

There are times when self-care is extra important. Now’s one of them. Be gentle to yourself and remember that you’re doing the best you can! That’s where the grace that I was just talking about comes in.

Some of my favorite grounding practices are:

Cooking and eating a healthy, delicious meal with my family. Life can get hectic, but it’s amazing what a fresh meal prepared and enjoyed together can do to rejuvenate me.

Lighting incense or a candle and tuning the world out for a few minutes. I love to light incense and take deep breaths or listen to binaural beats — it relaxes me almost instantly.

Feeding my soul with deep conversation with friends. Sharing my feelings and experiences openly and honestly with a trusted, empathetic friend always leaves me feeling supported and connected. It’s important to feel heard, and especially if you’re someone who shows up for other people but struggles to ask people to show up for you.

So here’s to the second half of 2021! There’s so much more in store from us at Anser — we’re working on developing new products and formulas specifically to address things that you asked us for — and we’re doubling down here on the blog on being a space for women to share their stories. Stay tuned for updates and keep checking in for new content! 



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